I will have been married six months tomorrow.
My parents have been married for 40 years.
Tomorrow their divorce goes through officially.
As much as I hate that all of this has happened in and around our wedding, a small part of me is grateful. Grateful for the conversations Mr B & I have had about our marriage. Grateful for the marriage demons I have had to face that I might have otherwise ignored. Grateful that I have two parents who love me. Grateful for the happy childhood I had. Grateful for my new husband and the strong foundation we have to build our marriage on.
Grateful for my new family in Mr B.
I am trying so hard to be grateful today.
What are you grateful for today?
My parents have been married for 40 years.
Tomorrow their divorce goes through officially.
As much as I hate that all of this has happened in and around our wedding, a small part of me is grateful. Grateful for the conversations Mr B & I have had about our marriage. Grateful for the marriage demons I have had to face that I might have otherwise ignored. Grateful that I have two parents who love me. Grateful for the happy childhood I had. Grateful for my new husband and the strong foundation we have to build our marriage on.
Grateful for my new family in Mr B.
I am trying so hard to be grateful today.
What are you grateful for today?
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Happy six months!
I think you are making the best of a horrible situation. It really is the best that you can do to use this to help strengthen your marriage.
cheers to your attitude, i know its hard.
my hubby and i got into it today...but as always, after i got rational we got through it. I'm grateful for a loving, patient husband.
I am grateful to have wonderful blog friends who remind me to appreciate everything I have. Hang in there Mrs. T! I'm sure this is bittersweet for you. Happy 6 month anniversary!!
Happy 6 Months! I think you are so right to focus on your marriage and new family with Mr. B during this tough time. We're all here for you!
I am grateful for my experiences. They would not have made me who I am and I like who I am. :)
The open lines of communication you and Mr B have are amazingly special. Sometimes the most beautiful, joyful things come out of the most painful events.
Happy six months to you! A good friend of mine's parents also finalized their divorce right around her wedding. They had been together for 35 years when it happened, and my heart broke for her and how much it tore her up inside. Stay strong and remember that your relationship is not your parents' relationship. You will have your own challenges to face, and you and Mr. B will rise to the occasion when it happens. *Hugs*
Today, I'm grateful for my amazing fiance, both of our wonderful jobs that allow us to have the lifestyle we want, and the fact that it's a three-day weekend coming up (Independence Day is recognized here on Monday).
Happy 6 Month Anniversary!
I'm sorry to hear about your parents but hopefully you can learn some valuable lessons from their marriage and use it to stregthen your own.
I am grateful for a partner who stands by me when things are rough. Sounds like you have a great partner too who is standing by you through the worst of your parents' divorce. I empathize.
Keep looking for the positive and being grateful, Mrs. T. I’m so grateful for all of the amazing support I’ve found in my friends, family and the blogging community over the past year. It’s great to know people care.
6 months!? time flies by! holey moley! I am grateful for an awesome life with awesome people in it!
(and a certian awesome blogger who also comments on my posts!!!)
p.s. also feel free to email me (orangeimpossible@yahoo.com) if you need anything. sorry again to hear about your parents
Here's to six months.
I am sorry about your parents. Yet your mother will be happier.
congrats on your 6 months!!!
i forgot until you commented on my post that we got married so close in time!
if you ever come to the states to celebrate an anniversary we can double ;)
Congrats on your six months, it's GREAT to be grateful on purpose when it seems like there's not much to be grateful for, really puts things in perspective. I'm sorry about your parents, but glad you've found something new to be grateful for, and that balance in your life, you know?
I am grateful for you. And your wonderful, honest, heart felt posts. And for Mr B and how he always knows how to comfort you and say things that you share that make me so happy for you.
Happy 6 months, girl! You deserve a lifetime of marriage happiness!
Happy 6 months - can't believe it is 6 months already.
Sorry you are going through a difficult time.
My parents are going through a rough patch too. My mom actually told me that she doesn't think marriage is a viable institution. Awesome, since I'm getting married next month!
Your marriage is not your parents. Their marriage is not some prophecy of your own. It sounds like you and the Mister are really talking things through, which is the best possible thing you could be doing right now.
It will get better, I promise...hugs.
First off, Happy Six Months!
I know how you feel...both my parents and my fiance's parents are divorced. It didn't happen within the past year but they happened right before and during our relationship. Think of it this way--you and your husband will learn from this experience and knowing what makes a marriage fail will only help you make yours work. *hugs*
I'm so sorry you're having to go through this - divorces suck. But at least you've found a bright side, you've learned and communicated through it :)
It's tough to deal with your parents' divorce at any time, but it's got to be really confusing and harsh to have to face it right around your own wedding.
I feel like I'm still processing/hurting from my parents' separation (they were still discussing divorce proceedings when my dad passed away...) and that was in 2006. But I have realized that "marriage demons" seem to be unavoidable, even if your parents are still lovey-dovey. And your right, there are still many things to be thankful for. And I've also learned that I am not my parents, and while I may need to examine what I've absorbed re: relationships from their example, I am not doomed to repeat their mistakes - definitely a freeing thought.
oh, and 6 months of wedded life, wow! Congrats! :)
(btw, did I ever mention that I started my own blog? thanks to you, in part!)
I am so happy you have a good person by your side to help get you through this.
Happy 6 months! And, I second what Cupcake Wedding said!
My heart breaks for you and am happy to read you are staying positive. My best friend went through this a couple of years ago, right before she got engaged. It was hard but it does get better.
Today, I'm grateful for the wonderful people in my life and their love and support.
constantly trying to remind yourself to be grateful is super hard, but at least you're aware of all the good in your life. that's a big deal.
Poor you... I know it hard to see the positive in such times and you're doing really well to see it like that!
Congrats on your 6 months! xx
I, too, am grateful to have a partner who will help me weather the storms that come up with my genetic family (not that I'm adopted or anything, just trying to separate the family we make together and the family we come from).
I admire your efforts towards gratitude rather than negativity, but just wanted to say, no one will blame you for the hurt/betrayed feelings as well.
You have so much to be grateful for!
Happy 6 months!
Sorry you are going through this; time will help.
Congrats on the six months!
Hope you are going ok. Focusing on the positives that you have is a good start.
Today, even though change is difficult, I'm grateful for new opportunities.
happy anniversary to you! being grateful is the first step to keep on the good things coming back ;) I try to everyday just be grateful to have what I have in life - and enjoy it full of health! have a fabulous holiday and hang in there!
Feeling any better/more positive lately?
so glad you realize what a lucky lady you are. you have parents and wonderful husband that love you!
i am grateful for every day that i wake up happy and healthy.
sending all my most positive thoughts and prayers your way lady! congrats on 6 months :) where does the time go?
Oh, what a sad time. I can't pretend to know what you are going through at alll! But, what I can say is that in you being honest I am sure it is helping so many others!
I am a new follower and I LOVE the support you have of your blog readers. I would love for you to stop by my blog sometime, we are newlyweds too!! Blessings,
Ria
Happy 6 months dear! Besides being grateful for the blog friends who kept me sane through all the craziness of the last year, I'm grateful for spending time with my favorite guy and discovering new things together.
Hey, thanks for your comment. Yesterday, the only thing running through my head was "this was a mistake, we shouldn't have gotten married." By golly I'm a worrier. Of course, what we were fighting about was as dyer as I felt it was - you might laugh if I ever get the nerve to write about it.
I suck at saying nice things - I'm more of a hugger. But, as I've recently been through a really sucky day, I have some experience. lol. It's okay to be upset, and even cry. Don't feel like you have to put on a strong face for every one else. Just don't let it get out of control. I really appreciated your comment on my blog, you definitely helped me to have a sunnier day today. Look up, the best is yet to come! (Because I was in the same boat, the waiting kind of sucks, but the marriage part is awesome!).
I'm sorry I'm a few days late in saying Happy Anniversary to you! Sending you positive vibes!
A bit belated, but Happy 6 Months! Hope everything's going well.
You're amazing. I can't believe, reading this, how far you've come since those dark days when all this started. I know it's never easy but you're doing so great. Hope you don't think I'm a weirdo for saying I'm proud of you. :)
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