My parents are in the final stretch of a messy marriage break up. It hurts my heart to think about it. Or write about it. Or talk about it.
I've been in denial. They live five hours away so I can just pretend in my head that things are fine.
When we go to visit my Mum still lives in their house - our home. Dad isn't there anymore. But in my head I just tell myself he's at work. He always worked a lot anyway.
I try not to think about it day to day. I don't talk to my Mum as much on the phone because she wants to tell me things I really don't want to know.
Now she is about to move out of our house.
And for some reason this feels worse than everything else has.
The part where he walked out. The part where he lied. The part where everything fell apart.
Yet the house feels worse. The house that is a home. My home.
Mr B said to me - Now that we're married we can be each others home. So no matter where we live, as long as we're together, we'll be home.
I have been clinging to his words like a life raft in the dark stormy ocean.
And although I'm still lost at sea, I'm not drowning anymore.
I've been in denial. They live five hours away so I can just pretend in my head that things are fine.
When we go to visit my Mum still lives in their house - our home. Dad isn't there anymore. But in my head I just tell myself he's at work. He always worked a lot anyway.
I try not to think about it day to day. I don't talk to my Mum as much on the phone because she wants to tell me things I really don't want to know.
Now she is about to move out of our house.
And for some reason this feels worse than everything else has.
The part where he walked out. The part where he lied. The part where everything fell apart.
Yet the house feels worse. The house that is a home. My home.
Mr B said to me - Now that we're married we can be each others home. So no matter where we live, as long as we're together, we'll be home.
I have been clinging to his words like a life raft in the dark stormy ocean.
And although I'm still lost at sea, I'm not drowning anymore.
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So sorry to hear about this difficult time. Hang in there! Sending positive thoughts your way!
Oh Mrs. T. My heart breaks for you. I cannot imagine what you are going through. But I love Mr. B's reaction! Hold on to that. You'll hit shore very soon! Thinking about you...
oh! I'm so sorry to read all of this :( not much too say but hang in there till the rainbow comes! wishing you and your family better days soon!
awww honey, thats crap. Mr B is right though, you have your own home, a little island in a storm. Maybe you need to tell your mum how much it upsets you to hear all this, so that you can talk more? its hard when you see your parents as an adult, but it will get easier. hugs to you.x
ugh. i am so sorry to hear this...it's heartbreaking. I come from a messy family, Andy is my home now. And I'm thankful. I'll say a prayer for you.
Aw I am sooo sorry sweetie :( Hugs* I like what Mr. B said to you though. Take comfort in knowing that!
I’m so sorry, Mrs. T. Your husband’s words are beautiful, though, and I hope they’ll give you strength. I’m sending hugs your way.
Sorry to hear about what you are going through. My parents got divorced couple of years ago too and it was a mess. But now...they are back together :-).
Everything is gonna be all right, just hang in there.
~lilian~
I'm so sorry to hear about your parents' divorce. I know it must put you in a difficult position. Hopefully over time home won't rely so much on a specific place, but just the location of where your loved ones go.
Oh hun, I am so sorry. I love that Mr. B is there for you so you don't have to go through this alone. ((((hugs!)))
so sorry, Mrs T. I hope you, your mother and father find some peace after all of this.
broken bones heal stronger.
lots of love to you, our folks and Mr B
Mrs.T, so sorry to hear about your parents' divorce. I'm so happy that Mr. B is there, and that he's so supportive. ♥
So sorry that you and your family are going through this.
Mr. B is right, he is your family too, and the two of you can shape that family any way you want :)
Hugs to you dear and wishes that you and your family get through this ok.
Ahhh, why were you on work on Sunday?!
It's always so hard when parents get divorced but fantastic that you have so much support from your hubby!
My parents split when I was in Year 3 and that was tough but now I'm so grateful they did because they're both so happy now.
But I couldn't imagine experiencing that now you poor thing. Lots of virtual hugs.
I'm so sorry to hear about what's going on with your parents. My parents got divorced when I was in college and it was really tough. It's great you have Mr. B to help you through it. He's right--you are each other's home and together, you can get through anything.
Oh sweetie I am so sorry to hear about this. No matter how old you are living through your parents divorce is one of the hardest things a child can go to. While reading this I found myself remembering the day my father left home. I watched him drive off with his things. My mother made him leave. It was around 26 years ago but I still feel the hurt and utter feeling of devastation to this very day. Sending you hugs, kisses & lots of support love! xoxo
I'm so sorry youre going through this. My mom still lives in 'my home' and I haven't even been to my dad's new apartment yet. Its hard and awful especially when you have to hear the nitty gritty details. We are all here for you. My email is orangeimpossible@yahoo.com if you ever need to chat!
Oh honey that's so sad. Mr. T is right, you all are each other's home now!
I'm so sorry about this experience. It's hard enough to leave a home that's been your home for so long and then also to have your folks split is really tough together. I definitely get Mr. T's comment.
Enter Weird Commenter's Story Hour: When Isaiah and I first got together both of our parents were splitting..we moved to Texas away from our homes and our home state and we had to focus on building a family together because there was no stability anywhere else. I definitely get what you're going through. Let yourself be vulnerable with Mr. T and accept your new family. That way when the tornado of craziness is all around you guys, you'll be all good, eh?*
*Trying to offset the cheese.
The important thing to remember is your marriage is not your parents marriage. Sounds like you have a lovely man and that's all the home you need. Good luck and best wishes.
I am so sorry to hear about this! I remember some of this from your other blog. I can't even imagine how tough it is to go through, so I won't pretend. But my thoughts are for sure with you. It sounds like Mr. B has said all the right things. Glad he is able to support you through this difficult time. Hoping things get better... xx
-Em
Sending you lots and lots of hugs!
My heart aches for you.
My prayers and thoughts go out to you.
I hope things are feeling a little less lost and stormy for you.
Mr B is as always clever the best you can do is focus on building your home in each other.
You know where to get me if you need me.
I am so sorry you have to go through all this right after your wedding :-(. My heart goes out to you. Parents splitting up is awful no matter how old you are or where you are in your life.
so sorry my dear. i know we are supposed to be "grown ups" but it still hurts when you see your family fighting. sending lots of good vibes and happy thoughts your way.
you are so lucky to have such a wonderful husband that loves you!
I popped in to check out your blog because I see your comments on Craft My Bride often. I would just like to say, it can get better.
I have a draft blog about my parents' divorce that I have been debating whether to post, and I think you just convinced me to post it. The best thing you can do for yourself is not to take sides. No matter what. Even if your dad lied, don't take sides. Forgive him and include him. It makes a huge difference.
*Hugs*
I love what Mr. B said to you. Those are beautiful words describing a beautiful love and commitment you can cling to.
my parents split when i was 6 and it just sucks. like, there's nothing more to say about it than, "it totally sucks."
sorry you're going through this :-/
i'm so sorry, dear. there's nothing i can say to make it better.
at the very least, what timing. now you can face this with an awesome husband at your side.
About about your parents splitting. That was really sweet what your husband said to you. Girl, you are blessed!
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i'm so sorry to hear that, mrs. t. that's got to be difficult, at any age. you're really lucky to have such a great support system in mr. b.
Hi,
I just wanted to drop by to let you know that I posted the blog about my parents' divorce. I hope it helps a little.
*Hugs*
home :) sorry to hear about this. no matter how old you are, it's never easy. sending you a big hug!
I am sorry to hear you are going through this. My prayers go out to you that you may find peace during this difficult time.
I'm so sorry to hear about this. Mr. B is right that you are each others' home now. I know it won't be easy, but knowing that you have a loving husband by your side will help you through the tough (and good) times that lie ahead. Big hugs!
Hi lady. I am so sorry to hear the news, and I think Mr. B is dead on - you two are now going to create a home together, and I hope you are able to find comfort in that! Thinking of you!
So sorry you are having to go through this!
But so glad you have your new home with Mr B; he is so right!
Oh... my eyes totally welled up when I read 'we can be each others home'.
Not sure if this helps but I don't have a parental home so my home is my only home. It makes it even more important but it also makes it more meaningful... my OH is my home. I really really hope you weather the storm... Huge huge hug xx
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